Your beliefs limit what you believe is possible. Your beliefs influence your actions, so think about your beliefs and consider how they impact your search for love.
Without the right attitude and beliefs, finding love will prove to be elusive. If you’ve been looking for love, but coming up short, it might be beneficial to examine your beliefs.
Do you have these non-supportive beliefs? Change them to their positive counterpart:
1. I am not worthy. How did you come to this conclusion, Queen? If you’re consistently doing your best to live your life as well as you can, you deserve to be loved. Everyone is worthy of love, but you still need to put in the effort.
Change to: “I am worthy of being loved by someone wonderful.”
2. Everyone cheats. A lot of people cheat in relationships, but not everyone cheats.
Change to: “I can find someone who believes that cheating is wrong.”
3. I don’t trust myself to choose the right person. Look at your past and decide what changes you need to make in your selection process. Everyone has made a few bad choices in this department, but you can always do better the next time.
Change to: “I am a wise person who can attract the right person for me.”
4. The single life is better. Single life is better for some people. You might even be one of those people. But, if you believe this, you’re likely to stay single.
Change to: “I am excited about finding love and sharing my life with someone else.”
5. I’ll have to give up too much. Every relationship has pluses and minuses. You will have to make some compromises in a loving relationship, but you can minimize those compromises by choosing someone who’s compatible with you. Find someone who fits into your life as it currently is.
Change to: “A relationship will add more to my life than it detracts from it.”
6. A relationship will solve my loneliness issues. Relationships are terrible solutions to your personal issues. They’re like Band-Aids that were never meant to stick. Resolve your challenges first before you seek out a relationship.
Imagine you had plenty of family and friends constantly around you and were rarely lonely. Now, imagine that you’re all alone in the world. Do you think you’d pick the same partner in each of those situations? Would you even have access to the same person in both situations?
Change to: “I refuse to use a relationship as a solution to the challenges in my life.”
7. All the good ones are taken. Many of them are. Unfortunately, the good ones who are taken tend to stay taken, but there’s always another good one out there looking for someone just like you, Queen.
Change to: “There are plenty of good people out there just waiting for me.”
8. I can change someone. Try changing someone and see what happens. You’re going to make the other person miserable, but, even more importantly, you’re going to be miserable too.
Change to: “I can find someone to love who is wonderful just as they are.”
Ineffective beliefs can limit your ability to find love, accumulate wealth, lose weight, or accomplish just about anything else. Your beliefs matter, Queen! So, enhance the odds of success in your search for love by addressing your damaging beliefs first. What’s more powerful than you?
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