Updated: Jan 6, 2019
Ready to live more in the present moment and let go of the past?
How many times have you heard women be described as “emotionally unstable”? This term is so dismissive because it gives the impression that being “emotional” is a bad thing. Emotions are meant to be fluid. When they aren’t, they get stuck, and this is where we run into issues. Learning how to deal with your emotions in ways that allow them to move and pass freely instead of lurking around is key to a healthier you.
Your emotions and how you act go hand-in-hand. Here’s the tricky part though. Emotions can be really hard to feel and deal with. That’s why we push them down, pretend they are not there, hide from them, deny them, ignore them. Although that can work for a little while, there are long-term consequences that go along with not dealing with your feelings. Keeping it 100 with yourself about what you need to do to let go of and process your emotions is a big deal, so let your emotions flow. This will keep your energy within moving and healthy. It will make room for the new when you’re consistently processing out the old. It’s balance, so be fluid.
How to process through your emotions effectively:
Be mindful. Mindfulness is the practice of observing our feelings as opposed to being in them. There’s a difference between “I feel anger right now” and “I am angry” overall. The more we practice mindfulness, the more we learn not to identify with our emotions and just let them be.
Name them. It is hard to process your emotions without recognizing them first. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?”
Acceptance. Accepting emotions is what is usually missing from the picture. It means letting it be felt in your body. What we usually do instead of acceptance is abandon the experience in favor of something that distracts us. Acceptance is a choice we make from moment-to-moment. Will you meet this emotion and allow it to be felt, or will you make it go away somehow?
Take action. When we suppress our emotions, we send that energy underground with toxic effects. Don’t suppress your emotions, but also don’t get caught in the energy of them. When we let our emotions take over, we are not in control. Take your control back.
Please share your thoughts about how to process through emotions in the comments section below. You never know, Queen, the things you say may help others learn how to process too.