I think that we can all agree that we are living in some weird times right now. As we all try to figure out how to adjust our lives to this new normal in the midst of this global corona-virus pandemic and keep our space, social distancing doesn’t mean that you have to be alone.
What’s the answer, Queen? Video Chat Dates!
Why you should now consider virtual dating:
Your safety should be your first priority. Asking for a quick phone call or video chat can be one way to make sure that the person you're talking to is actually who they say they are. No Catfishes, Queen!
To see if there's any real-life chemistry between you and your match. DMing is okay, but after a while, it gets old. Plus, it leaves a lot out of the vibe—body language, the sound of someone's voice, that special sauce. The sooner you figure out whether you're attracted to each other without the barrier of basic texts, the better.
Schedule a Time
Once you've matched and hit that spot in the conversation where one of you might suggest meeting up, set up a time to video chat that works for the both of you and stick to it. Don’t be a flake!
The date itself doesn't have to last for hours. Maybe, it'll be 30 minutes, or maybe you'll hit it off and stay talking for hours. Either way, stay open, but don't feel bad for wrapping things up if you need to.
Pick the Place
Depending on which app you're using to meet people, you might have access to a video chat feature there. If you met somewhere else, you're going to have to pick a platform you both can use. Now, remember, not everyone is comfortable with giving out their phone number or email to someone they just met online, and that's fine. You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Let's say you feel okay with exchanging contact info with your new potential bae. There are a bunch of free video chat apps out there right now, ranging from FaceTime to Zoom. If you end up picking a platform you've never used before, set it up ahead of time, so you're not trying to download the software or create an account when you're supposed to be chopping it up.
Present Your Best Self
First impressions are important. Social distancing doesn't mean showing up to your first virtual date in sweatpants and a t-shirt (even though they’re sooo comfy). Put the same amount of effort into this date as you would if you were meeting up in person.
Also, consider how your surroundings will show up on camera. And, if you're nervous (which is completely normal), shoot a quick video with your phone or computer to see for yourself how you look on camera.
In all reality, practicing social distancing doesn't mean that you have to put your dating life on hold. There are still plenty of ways to strike up a romance with someone—it just requires some creativity. Fortunately, during this era of self-isolation, we are able to stay more connected than ever through tech. Whether it's a post on social media, a text message, or a video chat, we can keep in touch with the people we care about the most (or hope to get to know a little better).
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