Are you driving yourself crazy because you’re desperately trying to find your “soulmate”? Well, stop! There’s a better way, Queen.
You don’t have to spend your entire life looking for love. In fact, true love might be right in front of you, but you’ve just been blind to it.
Be love, exude love, open yourself to love, and you might just find the soulmate you’ve been searching for all along.
Consider these ideas:
1. Research shows that focusing too much on finding your soulmate can lead to unhealthy thoughts.
You may have unrealistic expectations about your relationships. You may give up too easily on potential partners if they don’t fit your cookie-cutter idea of a soulmate.
Also, you can become so focused on finding a soulmate that it interferes with your work, family, and friends because you can’t think about anything else.
2. Are you ignoring love that isn’t perfect? Relationships go through many stages, and they’re not always perfect.
If you’re only looking for a soulmate, it’s easy to miss other romantic interests who could develop into the love you’re looking for.
Many friendships turn romantic over the course of time, but if you’re not willing to give anyone a chance, you’ll never let that person out of the friend-zone.
Having an obsession with finding your soulmate can make it harder to have patience in a relationship. You may get upset by small issues and give up on your partner quickly. You could lose a relationship that could turn into the love of a lifetime.
3. You don’t want to miss out on other important things. When your entire life revolves around finding true love, you can miss out on other things.
Are you ignoring your career to pursue romantic interests?
Are you neglecting family members and friends because you’re too busy trying to start a new relationship?
Do you ignore your hobbies and other interests?
Although love is essential in life, romantic relationships aren’t the only thing that matters.
4. Avoid scaring potential loves away. After you meet someone, if you think they’re the one, then you may push too hard and actually scare them away.
Relationships need time and space to grow. You can’t force them, and if you’re pushing too hard, they can fall apart.
By deciding that your partner must be your soulmate, you’re putting an enormous amount of pressure on the entire relationship. Your partner can feel overwhelmed and scared.
5. Relax. Relax a little, Queen, and let relationships develop naturally. If you relax, you’re actually more likely to find love.
Relaxing can strengthen your mental and physical health, so you’ll be able to handle a relationship easier.
You may also seem more attractive to others if you’re relaxed. Feeling nervous, impatient, angry, upset, or aggressive can make those around you feel the same way when they’re with you, so they may avoid you. Make sure you’re always vibing high, Queen.
Searching for a soulmate can interfere with many important aspects of your life and keep you from ever finding love. But, opening your heart to other possibilities can bring you the true love you desire sooner than you think! Just go with the flow, Queen, and let love find you.
If any of those red flags sound familiar, it’s time to take action. If you feel like you’re in physical danger, you may need to involve the authorities. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is also available for 24/7 guidance at 1-800-799-7233